“My mind won’t shut up.”
“I can’t focus to save my life.”
When it feels like your mind is in control of you, and you don’t know how to take back control, chances are you have monkey mind.
Monkey mind is exactly what it sounds like: imagine your mind is an energetic monkey jumping all over the place inside your head.
Monkey mind is closely correlated with anxiety. It’s a term that the Buddhists came up with many, many years ago.
You don’t have to be a Buddhist to have monkey mind, or to get rid of it.
When we have anxiety our amygdala is overactive and as bulky as Dwayne Johnson. The amygdala is the part of our brain where anxiety and fear live. Once upon a time, it helped us survive by enabling us to fight, or run away when faced with mortal danger (such as a T-Rex getting ready to chomp us).
Now our amygdala responds as if we’re in mortal danger, when we’re not. Speaking to a stranger won’t kill us, yet our mind may tell us it will. Few people die if they embarrass themselves in front of others, but some people’s minds disagree.
Sara Lazar is a Neuroscientist at Massachusetts General and Harvard. She has studied the benefits of using meditation and mindfulness. In her study, people meditated an average of 30 minutes a day for several times a week, for eight weeks found the following1 :
- Increased brain volume
- An increase in the area of the brain that is involved in whether or not the mind wanders.
- An increase in the area that helps us learn, think, with memory, and helps us regulate our emotions.
- An increase in the part of the brain associated with empathy and compassion.
So what?
So, there are other studies2 that document the benefits of meditation and mindfulness on monkey mind.
Neither mediation, nor mindfulness, is easy to do, but you weren’t born walking either.
It takes time, and it takes patience. When my clients agree to try this, I ask them to start at 1-5 minutes, and work up to longer times as their concentration improves, and their monkey mind gets harnessed.
Are you willing to experiment?
The only thing you have to lose is a few minutes a day, but you may also lose your monkey mind, and gain the ability to control your own brain and cut down on anxiety.
You have to really be committed to this for it to work. Don’t just try it a few times, and then say you can’t do it.
And Away We Go!
Remember, you’re going to start with a small period of time, 1-5 minutes.
- Set your timer for however long you want to meditate.3
- Darken your room.
- If you’re not alone let people know you’re meditating and ask them to be quiet.
- Sit up. If you lie down you will fall asleep.4
- Take some breaths. Some people say through your nose, but I like in through the nose and out through the mouth. Very slow and deep breaths.
- Focus on your breathing in and out and in and out.
- Clear your mind.
- Be gentle with yourself when your mind wanders and bring it back to your breath.
- Breathe and repeat.
This is a beginner’s guide, and as you get better with it, your skill will advance.
If you decide the experiment is worth continuing, you may want to look up videos on YouTube of how to advance your meditation practice or find a teacher to guide you.
I wish you luck and self-kindness, skill will follow.
Wishing you happiness, laughter, serenity, and no more monkey mind
Mechele
2https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3004979/ This is a good article, but it is very dry
3You can get a free meditation timer in your Ap store. I like Insight Timer.
4People who meditate on a regular basis use a cushion, but if you have back problems try a chair. Sit up straight or you will get so relaxed you will fall asleep. The first time I did this my teacher gently smacked me to wake me up and boy was I embarrassed!