What Are Affirmations? Affirmations are positive things we say to feel better about ourselves, others, or situations. Affirmations can help with negative cognitions. What’s a Negative Cognition? What’s a negative cognition, you ask? Well, that’s all the crap...
Unhappiness in a Relationship “I have experienced unhappiness in a relationship for almost a decade, and he never knew!” This is sad, but true. John Gottman has found in his practice that, on average, one partner spent 6 years of unhappiness in a relationship before...
Case Study: Therapy Helped Overcome Low Self-Esteem Jasmine was adopted into a family that she stated treated her well and loved her like their own. She said that nothing bad had happened to her as a child. Her family always stood by her and treated her with patience...
“I’m going to Blow up! I’ve held my feelings in so long that they are going to erupt like Mount Vesuvius.” Have you ever gotten angry at someone and chose not to tell them? To hold it in? Sometimes, that is clearly a wise choice, like in the example of road rage....
“Did you see how that jerk just cut me off?! This is my lane; why did he have to pull out right in front of me?!” Do your passengers grind their teeth when you drive? Do you get so angry behind the wheel that you want to do something uncharacteristic of you, such as...
Music is such a great thing. It can calm you, fire you up, make you cry, make you laugh, make you think of past times, or give more meaning to something that you’re currently going through. Think about your first crush in high school. Is there a song that makes you...
It Is Insidious, and It Never Goes Away. Stress, we all have it. Stress, like Type I Diabetes, is something that never goes away. There are things that we can do to manage it better and to have less of it, but we will always have some in our lives. There’s good...
You know what the biggest thing that stands in the way of our happiness is? It’s usually us! There’s this concept of “self-fulfilling Prophesy.” Basically, what it means is we have the power to make something we’re doing succeed or fail. If we go into something with a...
You know those thoughts. They creep up on you, and attach to your brain like a fishing lure, just hanging out, oblivious to your pain, they could stay forever. You try to make them go away, but the fishing lure embeds itself even deeper in your brain, and the pain...
“My mind won’t shut up.” “I can’t focus to save my life.” When it feels like your mind is in control of you, and you don’t know how to take back control, chances are you have monkey mind. Monkey mind is exactly what it sounds like: imagine your mind is an energetic...
